Welcome to the Internet ministry of Cindy Galdal-Ruperto serving the Christian community in New York City and the tri-state area.
I Know Who I Am
I can still vividly recall the days surrounding my grandmother’s death. At the tender age of ten my world quietly changed forever. Looking back I realize that’s when an ugly intruder named fear invaded my life. Even though I had long since endured my parents’ divorce, it was my grandmother’s death that would cost me the innocence of childhood.
Before I knew it, I began to be concerned about the rest of my family. Worrying quickly became a habit I had little control over. It stayed with me through my school years into adulthood. Somewhere along the line it took on the admirable new label of perfectionism. Then my need to control became socially acceptable in the face of a new breed called workaholics.
Even though the world rewarded my drivenness I knew deep inside that something was secretly destroying me. For years I tried everything I could to eliminate it–self-help books, exercise, relaxation techniques, therapy. After every attempt failed I gave up and concluded I would never change.
Of course, that was before I became a Christian. I’ve been walking with the Lord eleven years now and it’s been almost 2 years since the stronghold of fear has been broken. Actually, it was broken the moment I was born-again but I didn’t know that, so I unwittingly continued to live under the enemy’s lies. He had deceived me into believing that fear was part of me and that I was my own worst enemy. Now I know who my real enemy is–torment only comes from the tormentor himself.
How did I finally find my way out of the dark? Jesus turned on the Light for me in His Word. As I learned about who I am in Him I also learned about who I am not. I am no longer the little lost girl of a fractured family. I am the dearly beloved daughter of the Most High God. My big Brother Jesus shed His blood for me on the cross freeing me forever from my oppressor. His perfect love has cast every last fear out of the very depths of my being. Death has lost its sting as I walk in the newness of my born-again life. I know who I am.
The Story of Us
“God has made everything beautiful in its time.” Eccl. 3:11
During the last eleven years as a Singles Ministry Director I have been asked one question over and over and over again: “Have you met someone yet?” I suppose singles want to know about my success rate. On average between 250-300 singles from the tri-state area attend our singles events held 4-6 times a year. Our annual Valentine’s Event draws about 500 singles. I have watched countless numbers of people couple up and marry and have children. Imagine the warfare I have encountered from the enemy. He has spent many years prompting a whisper, “When, When, When, will it be MY turn?” and “Will it ever be MY turn?” When the devil speaks to us, he does his best to go undetected. Then we will think his thoughts are ours. That is why it is so important to take all our thoughts captive and screen them from lies.
To be sure, the single life can be wrought with lies. If you do not know your new identity in Christ, you will look to all the wrong sources for acceptance, security, and strength. The Deceiver wants nothing more than for God’s children to believe they have been forgotten in their singleness. Regardless of what our topic is for our events, I always try to reaffirm the truth that God has a plan for each of our lives. How sad it is to see so many dynamic, gifted Christian singles just wasting away their season of singleness in self-pity and hot pursuit of a mate. I am not talking about having a desire and goal to be married, I am talking about watching years go by and not building a productive life because you are stuck in a “waiting” mode. Instead of being active for God, you are passively “waiting.”